From Sebastian Harris – The International Dating Crash Test Dummy
But almost everyone does. I’ve never met an aspiring seducer who didn’t make at least one of the crucial mistakes I’m about to share with you.
Yes, I’ve made them too.
I still remember the first time I approached a woman.
God, it was so embarrassing.
I did everything wrong you can possibly do wrong. I made every mistake in the book. I approached her with a ridiculous pickup line, talked about boring things that didn’t interest her and let’s be honest: I didn’t even want her.
She was not my type and she was definitely not girlfriend material. But I was desperate.
I was a desperate boy who would have done everything to get laid. Back in those days I approached women I wouldn’t even look at nowadays. It makes me feel ashamed of myself. But at the same time, it makes me feel proud.
I’m proud of my mistakes because they made me who I am today.
I wish I hadn’t made all of the seven mistakes.
One would have been enough. But no, I had to make all of them.
That’s why it took me years to figure out how to meet, attract, and seduce the hottest girls in a world that wants you to fail.
Yep, that’s the truth:
If you continue to make these mistakes, you’re attempt to pick up hot girls will fail.
Avoid the following seven mistakes and you’ll succeed…
I don’t know why it’s still happening.
I thought the “who lies more, men or women?” era was finally over. I thought the young guys have already forgotten about Neil Strauss and his book The Game.
Well, I was wrong. There are still self-proclaimed PUA’s out there who use these terrible pickup lines.
I’m sure you’ve heard one of them before.
“I’m looking for a birthday present for my little sister.”
“Do you think men lie more than women?”
“You look like my future ex-girlfriend.”
Sorry, but these lines are neither funny, nor original.
I mean, yeah. She might smile and giggle, but only because she’s laughing at you…not with you.
Are you ready for the truth?
It’s better to be honest than to use any of these fancy pickup lines.
Tell her what you think and feel. That’s all you have to do. It can be as innocent as “sorry, but I think you’re really beautiful. I just had to come over and talk to you.”
This simple (and honest) opener beats any fancy pickup line.
2. You Rely on Motivation and Ignore Discipline
What’s the difference between success and failure?
Nope, it’s not motivation.
You can be motivated today and approach twenty women. Then you don’t feel it for the next month and you don’t approach one single girl.
Sadly, that’s exactly what a lot of guys do.
They rely on motivation.
They watch a pickup artist on YouTube or they read a dating and seduction book, such as Rise of the Phoenix: How to Get the Hottest Girls in a World That Wants You to Fail. Right after they read the book, they go out and approach girls.
They are on fire and for the first time ever, they collect phone numbers from hot girls.
What happens next?
Nothing happens because the next day the motivation is gone.
They don’t approach girls anymore and all the progress they made fades in the nothingness of space.
Seducing women is like building muscles. You can’t expect to build muscles when you lift weights once a month for five hours.
It’s way better to do it three days a week for one hour.
Consistency is the key to success with women and self-discipline is the engine. You need the discipline to go out there and to approach women…every single day. It’s a marathon and not a sprint.
I hope you’re ready to start walking.
Guilty, your honor…
I’ve done this way too many times. There was a time when I thought that I can only call myself a seducer (or a man) if I have the skills to seduce one of these hot party girls.
You know, the chicks in tight miniskirts who hit the club six days a week.
I wanted to date one of them…at least I thought I wanted it.
Let’s face it. Most pickup artists and dating coaches love to mention the same type of girls. They sell you the idea that sleeping with party girls, strippers, and pornstars is the road to happiness.
What they forget to mention is that most of these girls have a screw loose.
What if you want to date a shy and nerdy girl?
“Only losers date these girls. Real PUA’s sleep with pornstars and strippers” says the self-proclaimed pickup artist.
Here’s what I say:
Seduce and date the girls YOU want!
Don’t let anyone tell you who to date. Choose the girls who are right for you.
4. You Invest in Stuff and Not in Yourself
How do you get laid?
If you asked this question twenty men, you’d get at least ten answers that include the words money, house, or car. Unfortunately, most men invest in all the wrong things. They think that stuff gets them girls and ignore the fact that self-improvement is the answer.
I will never forget this one email.
This guy asked me how much my book Rise of the Phoenix costs. I told him that he can get the book and the four bonus books for only $19.99. In his reply he told me that he doesn’t have the money right now because he just bought new rims for $250.
I was speechless.
But hey, I experienced it so many times. I met frustrated male virgins on the brink of suicide who rather invested 20 bucks in two cocktails than into the once-in-a-lifetime chance to change their life and to finally get laid.
It’s mind-blowing but it happens all the time.
If they only knew that investing in yourself is way more important than investing in stuff…
5. You Are too Afraid to Offend Anyone
What kind of man do women want to date?
Well, they don’t want to date timid men. They also don’t want to date men who are too afraid to say what they think.
And they for sure don’t want to date men who are afraid to offend anyone with their truth.
Shock horror: Most guys do exactly that.
They don’t say what they think and feel because they are afraid. They are afraid to offend and they are afraid that she won’t like their opinion.
Well, I have news for you: Women don’t respect men who hide their truth.
Speak your mind and you will attract the women you dream of.
6. You Think That You Have to Become Someone You’re Not
Who do you have to become to seduce women?
That’s the wrong question because it implies that you’re not good enough the way you are. But that’s not true. You already have what it takes. You have unlimited potential. You just have to find a way to unlock this potential.
Rise of the Phoenix: How to Get The Hottest Girls in a World That Wants You To Fail will help you to unlock and to realize your full potential. Picking up girls is not about learning two or three pickup lines and repeating them like an emotionless robot.
Your goal is (or at least it should be) to seduce women by being yourself.
There’s just one thing that’s holding you back…
Your limiting beliefs are your biggest enemy.
“I’m not rich enough!”
“I’m not tall enough!”
“I’m not handsome enough!”
“I’m not muscular enough!”
Does any of these limiting beliefs sound familiar to you?
I know you have them. Every aspiring seducer has them.
Heck, if a guy with a baby face and a 30 centimeter scar on his belly can overcome his limiting beliefs and turn them into fuel for dates, one-night stands and crazy sexual adventures, you can do the same.
Are you ready to discover this secret?